I remember what Dad said on the 2nd or 3rd day after Ev's stroke: "I have faced that this has happened, I realize I can't do anything about it, and now I just need to get the right attitude about it."
I knew when he said it, I should remember it and as it turned out, this was very good advice as I faced the loss of my Dad. I am thinking about what Dad said now as we face losing Gus at such a young age.
For a long time, I struggled with what went wrong for Dad in the hospital, mulling over every detail that I could remember. Finally, I saw this quote and it made me realize, that this can be true.
Grief demands an answer, sometimes there isn't one.
His life couldn't be saved. Period.
As I face life without Ev, Dad & now Gus, I know things will never be the same. I am grateful for a close family who supports each other and helps each other as we each deal with the loss in our own way. I am glad for lives well lived and for the end of pain & suffering. But mostly, right now, I am sad.
|Gus at his deer stand in The Barrens.|
He loved to be in the woods.