12.12.2010 ~ The Saddest Day Ever

Many of you knew that my niece Angie was expecting her 4th baby this week.  On Saturday, she noticed that the baby had not moved for a couple of hours, so they went to the hospital.  An ultra sound confirmed that there was no longer a heart beat.  As you can imagine this was devastating news.

Angie's Mom, Lois, and Angie's best friend, Julie, headed to the hospital at about midnight Saturday night to join Aaron and Angie.

My great nephew was born at 5:02 a.m. on Sunday, December 12, 2010.  He was named Drew Kirk Chivers, 8lb 8oz. As far as I know, there was no apparent sign of why he was stillborn.   Angie and Aaron's other children got to the hospital Sunday morning to spend time with Aaron and Angie & Drew.  Angie's best friend, Julie, who was there at the hospital all night, is a professional photographer.  Her photos of Drew and family will be precious.

Angie went home from the hospital on Sunday afternoon.   A memorial service for Drew Kirk Chivers is planned for Wednesday, @ 11am at The Frederic Free Church.

My heart is broken for Angie, Aaron, Emily, Megan and Owen.  Their extended family is sadder than words can ever say.

In honor of Drew and his family, please take a 'moment of silence'.  

I will be observing a few days of silence on my blog postings.

Rest in Peace sweet Drew,

Love, Great Aunt Wanda

Obituary Link
Drew Kirk Chivers
December 12, 2010-December 12, 2010

Postscript:

Struggling to understand 'why', I searched the internet and read about these events. One statistic that I saw said that 1 out of 115 pregnancies end this way, and most of the time, there is no apparent reason.  The quote was that this happening is 'as random as raindrops', and often there is no real cause found.  Almost always, nothing that the mother could or could not have done would have made a difference.  It also said that having pictures of the baby is so very important for the healing process.  While it may sound morbid to some, this article said that it is important for the family to have something to remember the baby by...it must be the most awful feeling to be leaving the hospital without a baby and with no joy, after all those months of anticipation.  Hopefully photographs will help with the healing.  


The link below is for Faith's Lodge, Angie and Aaron hope to go there as it is a wonderful healing experience.
http://www.faithslodge.org/